In our younger years, it’s difficult to imagine a future where we’re unable to live independently. Even harder to imagine, for many older adults, is spending the later years of life receiving support at a senior living community. Because of this, many adults ask their loved ones to make a promise never to move them into a senior living community, especially nursing care. However, many adult children find themselves in a position where the best decision, for both their parents and the family, is to break that promise.
Deciding to move your loved one into a senior living community or nursing home can happen for many different reasons. Many adult children take on the caregiver role while still juggling full-time responsibilities like working or caring for their children. But there are a number of reasons a family may ultimately decide that moving into a nursing home provides the best solution for their loved one, including:
Old adults could benefit greatly from the services provided in nursing homes and senior living communities. Plus, caregivers can also benefit from the additional support, especially if they’re feeling constantly drained and have exhausted all alternatives.
According to the Alzheimer’s Association, guilt and grief are among the most challenging feelings caregivers must face when transitioning their loved one from aging at home to a care facility. While these are challenging emotions, they’re also typical experiences. Guilt often comes when we believe that we should be able to care for our loved ones until the very end. However, acting as your loved one’s caregiver can be overwhelming, and there may come a time when professional help is needed. Guilt is also a normal reaction whenever we break a promise. Caregivers may feel pressure from other family members or friends to let their loved one age in place and could feel guilt when they disappoint everyone.
The Alzheimer’s Association explains that grief is an emotional, physical, and thought-based reaction to perceived loss and change. We grieve in order to understand and accept our new realities. It’s a normal and expected element of breaking a promise. Guilt is also a normal reaction to seeing our parents get older, especially if we feel as though we can’t support them ourselves.
If your loved one develops dementia or a severe physical limitation, you may realize that caring for your family member at home is no longer realistic. Here are some tips to help you through the changes:
At Maplewood Senior Living, we understand how difficult it can be to transition a loved one into a senior living community, especially if you’ve made a promise not to do so. Our communities are equipped to provide excellent healthcare, family support, and robust offerings for the whole family, no matter the need. If you’re interested in learning more about how to talk to your parents about senior living, please contact us today. We’d love to hear from you.
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